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by Pamela Druckerman

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  • ISBN 1594203334
  • ISBN13 978-1594203336
  • Language English
  • Author Pamela Druckerman
  • Publisher Penguin Press; 1 edition (February 7, 2012)
  • Pages 304
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  • Category Parents
  • Subcategory Family Relationships
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The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children.

When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent." French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.

Yet, the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her American friends take a year or more. French kids eat well-rounded meals that are more likely to include braised leeks than chicken nuggets. And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French friends sip coffee while the kids play.

Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France. There's no role model, as there is in America, for the harried new mom with no life of her own. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. They have an easy, calm authority with their kids that Druckerman can only envy.

Of course, French parenting wouldn't be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children. In fact, French kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans. They're just far better behaved and more in command of themselves. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are- by design-toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.

With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman-a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal-sets out to learn the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. She discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others. And she realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don't just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very different view of what a child actually is.

While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children-including her own-are capable of feats she'd never imagined.

Pamela Druckerman (Author). So does practically every French baby book and parenting magazine I read.

Pamela Druckerman (Author). Why does this American way of parenting seem to be hardwired into our generation, even if-like me-you’ve left the country? First, in the 1990s, there was a mass of data and public rhetoric saying that poor kids fall behind in school because they don’t get enough stimulation, especially in the early years. It quickly becomes clear that having a child in France doesn’t require choosing a parenting philosophy. Everyone takes the basic rules for granted.

When American journalist Pamela Druckerman had a baby in Paris, she didn't aspire to become a "French parent. But she noticed that French children slept through the night by two or three months old. They ate braised leeks. They played by themselves The runaway New York Times bestseller that shows American parents the secrets behind France's amazingly well-behaved children. When American journalist Pamela Druckerman had a baby in Paris, she didn't aspire to become a "French parent. But she noticed that French children slept through the night by two or three.

Also by Pamela Druckerman. I’m hardly the first to point out that middle-class America has a parenting problem. One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting. One writer defines the problem as simply paying more attention to the upbringing of children than can possibly be good for them. 2 Another, Judith Warner, calls it the culture of total motherhood.

An American mother in France admires the way French parents protect their own pleasures. I thought of that experience while reading Pamela Druckerman’s book on the wisdom of French parenthood. She relates the story of how she cradled her baby daughter, Bean, for her first inoculations in a French doctor’s office, apologizing to her for the pain she was about to experience. The pediatrician scolded her. You don’t say ‘I’m sorry,’ he said.

bringing up bébé . Marvelous. Like Julia Child, who translated the secrets of French cuisine, Druckerman has investigated and distilled the essentials of French child rearing. Druckerman provides fascinating details about French sleep training, feeding schedules, and family rituals. But her book’s real pleasures spring from her funny, self-deprecating stories.

Pamela Druckerman is an American-French writer and journalist living in Paris, France.

Pamela Druckerman is an American-French writer and journalist living in Paris, France Contents. Druckerman is best known as the author of Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting, a book about French parenting philosophy and tips published by Penguin in 2012 She also published Lust In Translation: Infidelity from Tokyo to Tennessee in 2007 with Penguin Group that examined the nature of marital infidelity.

These books can be useful to people who lack confidence, but I don’t think you can raise a child while reading a book. Before responding to an interrogation, common sense tells us to listen to the question. You have to go with your feeling, one Parisian mother says.

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Druckerman provides fascinating details about French sleep training, feeding schedules and family rituals. Bringing Up Bébé is a must-read for parents who would like their children to eat more than white pasta and chicken fingers. But her book's real pleasures spring from her funny, self-deprecating stories. On questions of how to live, the French never disappoint. Maybe it all starts with childhood. That is the conclusion that readers may draw from Bringing Up Bébé. The Wall Street Journal. French women don't have little bags of emergency Cheerios spilling all over their Louis Vuitton handbags.

Bringing up baby the French wa. As a journalist and desperate mother, Druckerman was keen to uncover the secret of French parenting

Bringing up baby the French way. Michele Hanson. In England or the US she might have found sympathy and chummed up with similarly sleep-deprived, frazzled new mums. But motherhood in Paris was different. As a journalist and desperate mother, Druckerman was keen to uncover the secret of French parenting. It appeared to "vacillate between being extremely strict and shockingly permissive", but the results were impressive. The parents were not shouting, the children were quiet, patient and able to cope with frustration.

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Shaktizragore
I lived in Europe in my early twenties and spent quite a bit of time in France. I remember noticing how well behaved the kids were. Fast forward 15 years and I have a 16 month old and another baby on the way. I was thinking someone had to have written a book on the French philosophy of raising kids. This book is has great insight on that. I really enjoyed this book and it was a really easy read. I would highly recommend it.
Damdyagab
As is the case with many books comparing American parenting styles with that of other countries, some potential readers have felt opinionated - even defensive - before even buying the book.While I certainly haven't concluded that French parenting is "right" and American parenting is "wrong", this intriguing book deserves a fair chance - one obtained by reading it - but some initial "reviews" were written by people who simply refused to read a book comparing American and French parenting techniques.

So what will will you find in Bringing Up Bebe? What makes this one worth a look?

To start with, the author, Pamela Druckerman, does not come off as someone who is crazy about France, let alone French parenting - at first. As she writes early on, "I'm not even sure I like living here" although she does change her tune later. She came to her opinions about French parenting slowly and she backs up her main points with plenty of research studies as well as techniques she learned from French parents and parenting authorities. As a result she concludes that "the French have managed to be involved without becoming obsessive. " They aren't waiting on their kids hand and foot and they don't assume that they have to push their children to succeed. Even so, she notes that she hadn't thought she was supposed to admire French parenting. So consider her a reluctant convert to French methods of parenting.

Druckerman observes that there doesn't appear to be a relentless drive to get babies and children to various lessons or such activities as early swimming lessons. A neighbor was content to let her children simply find ways to play, often with old toys or perhaps by exploring her outdoor environment.

Meals are also handled differently with set times for eating and with children being expected to exert enough self-control to wait hours in between meals. Vegetables, varied types of cheese, and other foods American kids might snub are not only served but actually eaten.

Then there are the studies. They are certainly food for thought and perhaps some spirited debate. One study notes that mothers in Columbus, Ohio find child care twice as unpleasant as mothers in Rennes, France. There is the University of Texas study that concludes that French mothers aren't concerned with accelerating their children's cognitive development or academic achievement. Instead, they are comfortable with letting their kids simply be children while they still can. The author cites another study which indicates that 90 percent of fifteen-year-olds eat their main meal with their parents - compared to 67 percent of those in the United States.

The author took detailed notes as she observed French parents. She learns that they expect their babies to start sleeping through the night within no more than a few months - or even in the first month. They ask Druckerman if her baby is "doing her nights" (sleeping through the night).

Admittedly, a certain number don't...but a fair number do because their parents use "the Pause" , not responding immediately to a baby's cries. When Druckerman tries using "the Pause" her own baby starts sleeping through the night, although...to be fair...she does wait until her baby is more than a few months old, unlike the French parents she describes.

Even infant mortality rates are lower in France, 57 percent lower than in America. There is an emphasis on a calm pregnancy and not eating too much. This doesn't mean starving but an overly obese mother isn't necessarily serving a baby's health. I won't stress this point too much because there could be many other factors that determine the possible difference in infant mortality rates between one country and another.

To sum it up, the author has discovered the "wisdom" of French parenting and has written a book that seems to be aimed at imparting that wisdom to American readers. Druckerman also seems to be encouraging parents to try and change the way American parents perceive children,to not base their lives so much around the kids. To be clear, the parenting advice here is centered on children, not teenagers, as French teenagers are given more freedom but in Druckerman's view also seem to have less cause to rebel.

I did have some issues with this book. The first chapter has far too much info about Druckermans' career before moving to France as well as her time meeting and dating her husband-to-be. This takes up an entire chapter. I wanted to get to the parenting observations more quickly. The book consists mostly of personal observations and Druckerman's parenting experiences which are also peppered with interviews with such people as the French "Doctor Spock" as well as other experts. I'm sure it will be controversial and from what I've seen and read it already is. Even so, this book deserves to be judged based on its contents.
Fawrindhga
Loved this book! Probably one of my favorite reads during my pregnancy. It was refreshing to hear an outsider perspective on parenting and pregnancy that’s not the “American norm”.

I feel like there is a true benefit to looking at parenting through a more multi-cultural lens. There is so much new parents, and even experienced parents can learn from one another if we just step out of our cultural norms or bubbles.

This book is a great read because it’s written more like a story and less like a self help. As a new parent, I was devouring tons of baby books and it was so nice to read a book that wasn’t a set of guidelines and how-to’s... it was more of a guided story and look into someone’s world.

I’ve used a lot of the French philosophies of parenting in this book as soon as my child was born. The book helped me change my mentality in that I felt like I was more in control of how I could help my child adapt more easily to our world, such as, sleep through the night and eat nutritious foods. There is also a section in the book about baking a super simple cake with your toddler; what a crazy yet clever idea! Although I haven’t tried a full blown cake yet, I’ve allowed my 1.5 yr old help me in the kitchen with making pancakes and mixing ingredients when we bake. It has been a great bonding experience and learning experience for her so far and it’s incredibly fascinating to see your child develop and interest in these “adult” skills at such an early age.

Totally worth the read and very encouraging in putting confidence back in parenting in our day and age.
Grarana
I love this book!!! As a first-time American mom, having read and heard one warning after another about what to eat/what not to eat, what to do/what not to do, during both pregnancy and breastfeeding, I found myself more anxious about how I might be messing up my child and feeling like he dictated my sleep schedule rather than the other way around. This book has brought be confidence and sanity and has validated the intuitive tendencies I already exhibited towards my child and has allowed me to enjoy motherhood 200% rather than the 90% I was feeling, given all my anxieties. Pamela's prose is funny, and she's backed up her observations of French parenting with journalist-style research on child sleep and development. A must read for any American parent, male or female, new or veteran. I'd also recommend this book to all grandparents who might be assisting in raising your children! It's been a while since I've passionately loved a book this much--especially one on the topic of raising children!
Kata
This book set the course for parenting in my early days of motherhood. I read this book when my son was 5 months old and immediately recognized some of the humorous but true notes the author dictates about American parenting in her book. My extensive travels abroad had never left me feeling that children as a whole were universally any one way and in fact, most other countries, loved small children. Why, in America, were people not only not in love with children but so unnerved by the experience of parenthood that many friends of mine have even decided to forego parenthood altogether? This book addresses so many of the thoughts and feelings that any parent or non-parent bystander has in a funny and self deprecating way and ties it all together in a universal message of encouragement to families. I heartily recommend this book to any moms but especially those who are in their 30's and looking for a funny and fresh approach to the dialogue about parenting that we are unaccustomed to having.
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