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by Diane M. Berry

Download Romancing The Web: A Therapist's Guide To The Finer Points Of Online Dating ePub
  • ISBN 0974207888
  • ISBN13 978-0974207889
  • Language English
  • Author Diane M. Berry
  • Publisher Blue Waters Pubns; 1 edition (May 20, 2005)
  • Pages 200
  • Formats txt azw lrf lit
  • Category Self-Help
  • Subcategory Relationships
  • Size ePub 1139 kb
  • Size Fb2 1625 kb
  • Rating: 4.2
  • Votes: 392

Online dating is the most efficient and effective way to meet the right partner today! Singles'bars have always been dreadful places to meet and, in our increasingly mobile society, family and friends are not always sufficiently close or available to provide potential partners as they may have been in the past. Online dating works! But the process, from logging on to walking down the aisle is fraught with danger and confusion if you don't understand how it works. Romancing the Web, the only online dating book written by a relationship therapist, is a complete reference to the finer points of this process and your ticket to success in this endeavor. Written in an eminently readable style, by a therapist with more than 12 years' experience working with singles and couples in the field, Romancing the Web is filled with real-life examples, such as the following, that help to illustrate both the problems and solutions that singles can find in their quest for companionship in cyberspace. "'Well, let's see,' Cindy begins in response to my question about her recent social engagements. 'Last Saturday I went to an Art Fair with Jake. We really had a good time. We spent the whole day there. Then on Sunday, Tom took me out to dinner at a really nice restaurant. I've been seeing him almost once a week now. On Wednesday Jeff and I went for a bike ride after work. That was fun, too. You remember him, right? The builder I told you about? And tomorrow night, Steve is taking me to a movie.' Before she discovered online dating, Cindy, a very attractive woman in her early fifties, had a great deal of difficulty finding companions to spend free time with because move of her friends, co-workers and siblings were married. As a result, she either stayed home or attended events alone--a victim of her environment and the limited resources for singles in her city. The internet, and online dating, has changed her life."

Increasingly over the past five years, Berry has found herself advising single and divorced clients on online dating issues in her small Midwestern city, resulting in the information compiled in the volume.

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It's an eye-opener for those who believe it's a smooth water cruise. At first, Ms. Berry's detailed explanations of the necessary preparations seem elementary, yet she builds your confidence through knowledge. There's lots to learn before putting yourself on display. If you do it right, it's the 21st century's intelligent way find a mate. This publication limits your exposure and prepares for success.

This book serves as a guide for those who want to use the web as a medium in meeting and dating people.

Romancing the Web" will help you to point your computer mouse in the right direction and give you invaluable tips along the way. - Larry James, CelebrateLove. com, author of "How to Really Love the One You're With".

Last By Bettie B. Youngs & Masa Goetz, P.

So-and-so was my friend and we had an argument and she demoted me, is a weekly refrain in Ms. Berry’s office. It tends to cause hurt and anger, she said.

Published May 20, 2005 by Blue Waters Pubns. Mary sniffles tearfully in my office, clutching the tissue tightly to her cheek.

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This can be beneficial to men too, but women who have safety concerns may be especially interested in the ability to, for instance, run a background check on someone before agreeing to meet him. Friedman too notes that online dating can allow for more vetting than the in-person variety: "If you meet someone at a party or a bar you know nothing about them, and you're already in their physical vicinity.

Talk about Romancing The Web: A Therapist's Guide To The Finer Points Of Online Dating

This book is excellent, especially for folks just getting back into dating again and who want to do it differently. She has sage advice, and really has you thinking about whether you are ready to actually do online dating.
She covers all topics with great examples. I'm on my second read and using it to reframe what I do want and how I want to get there. Highly recommend.
As a therapist, Diane Berry has had a lot of experience with people who were fearful and timid when it came to online dating. Her guidance is pitched for those who feel a strong need for caution. One chapter holds the reader's hand while preparing an online profile and another deals with whether to use a photograph. Other books provide guidance in these areas with an eye to practicality and adventure rather than the concern for fearfulness and timidity found in this book. In my opinion, the caution becomes extreme when she tells the reader to engage in e-mail for a month and then telephone conversation for a month before agreeing to meet face-to-face. When the meeting does occur, she says to limit contact to no more than once a week for several months.

Women will probably get the most out of the tips for safety and the red flags to look for in online contacts. There certainly is value in learning the importance of safety with online contacts. But, honestly, it goes a bit far when Berry advises women to have a friend call them on a cell phone fifteen minutes into the first meeting to make sure that everything is alright. And I wholeheartedly disagree with her etiquette rule that breakups should be done in person if you met the person face-to-face, or by telephone if you talked to them on the telephone.

I don't want to be unfair to Berry; however, I think most people would become impatient with her over-cautiousness. At least, I did. If you are feeling the need for caution, then Romancing the Web is meant for you.

Gordon Scott Edwards, author of Internet Safari, Finding Love Online At 65
nothing exciting here
Lots of information, but there could have been more about when things dont go right. Lots of talk about how to proceed on a positive situation, but little on etiquette how to deal with negative scenarios, which, the author assures us, there will be plenty of.
This book is very useful for those who are unsure about online dating and the value that it brings. For me, I recongnize and embrace the online dating so, it was not a perfect fit for me.
Tyler Is Not Here
The book had a lot of good suggestions, but the problem is internet dating has no rules of etiquette. Everyone does their own thing. Consequently there is a lot of misunderstanding.
Let's face it. Online dating is the fastest type of dating today, and for many good reasons.
I've been dating online for some time so some of this I'd already learned. The hard way.
So this was a welcome refresher as to that stuff.
However A LOT of what's in here was new to me and very helpful.
If you're already dating online stop everything and read this book before trying any more.
If you haven't yet, don't! Until you've read this book.
Each chapter ends with a summary of what you just read, sort of an outline reminder.
It deals with all the etiquette, and all the precautions you need to take. So follow her suggestions to the letter.
Let's face it. Especially for women (and gay men) online dating can be dangerous, yes, even deadly. And most people have to learn these details through trial and error.
I read somewhere that only 7 % of human communication comes through the words used. The other 93 % is from body language and voice.
So go out and date and enjoy yourself. But like the cop used to say "Let's be careful out there".
This book will show you how.
I disagree with the review below, the book may have been a little repetive but I could understand what the author was saying. However, with the other books I have tried to use I ended up so confused and frustrated that I just gave up. This book really helped me get the right image of myself onto the internet and gave me helpful tips about choosing a mate that I would never have thought of myself.

I live in a very small town in Iowa and all the men in my town are married or not an option. Dating was out of the question with my two young children so the internet was my only option. Romancing the Web really helped me to feel comfortable with the internet and online dating sites. I am currently in a relationship and I have found that in my past relationships I had moved too fast, Berry's suggestion to only e-mail for a month helped me to really get to know Dave and now we have started talking on the phone.

I highly recommend this book for anyone who has been frustrated by the internet or needs a little relationship nudge, it really helped me.